We are living during a time when the more extreme feminism ideology has pushed the agenda of equality to the extreme. The idea of the 50/50 relationship has been heavily promoted with quite a lot of disregard for our biology which takes much longer to catch up than one generation.
Relationships are becoming ‘depolarised’. Instability and division has been created between the masculine and feminine. Is this an innocent progression, or is this part of a wider agenda to create chaos?
Like a battery a spark is created when you have a plus and a minus. In a relationship you need a feminine pole and a masculine pole. In our current modern relationships, feminines are encouraged to be masculine, and masculines are encouraged to be more feminine. This creates neutrality. There is no spark with neutrality. There is frustration and despondency.
Historically masculines were the leaders in a relationship. This was in accordance with the bible, but also biologically made sense as they were the physically stronger of the sexes and therefore were able to protect the feminine from physical threats.
This polarity created a grounding presence for feminines along with protection, and boundaries. This safe container allowed the feminine to ‘flow’ knowing that she could never flow outside the boundaries as her masculine would stop her. Her emotions were allowed a lot of space to express, but not so much that she could become unsafe or flow away completely.
When there are no masculine boundaries (because masculines have been taught they need to be passive and some protective behaviours have been labelled ‘toxic’), the feminine must either keep her emotions (her flow) in, or she lets it out but appears a little neurotic as the flow runs all over the place and eventually she becomes diminished – as if the lake has broken its banks and is drying up. This can lead to a yo-yo-ing or cycle of emotions which can be very unsettling for both parties.
When a masculine fails to create an environment of safety for the feminine with appropriate boundaries, provision and protection, she is drawn to look elsewhere for a masculine who is stronger. This is a biological motivation so that she can birth and raise infants successfully to adulthood. We may think we have outgrown this biology, but of course it’s impossible to evolve biology in such a short space of time. Our biology and intuition are in conflict with our modern day ideals.
Progression is a wonderful ideal, and evolution is a part of life, and of course we want to maintain many of the wonderful benefits of equality, BUT when feminines and masculines are suffering, we need to pause and take stock and ask ourselves, is this really working for us?
If there is no stability in the home or relationship, then it’s fair to assume that something is amiss and changes should be made. In my experience, most healed feminines require a certain amount of leadership and even boundaries to feel happy and safe, but also to feel attracted to their partner sexually (again, this is biology).
Most healed masculines desire to lead their home and their feminine into a happy harmony where she can be free to express but he knows she feels safe, and that when she feels like that she both respects him and wants to surrender to his penetration (that’s my poetic way of saying she will want to have sex with him more!)
A new healthy, modern, and spiritually based version of the harmonic dance between the masculine and feminine is emerging, and there are no hard and fast rules, we must all find our own way, but in my experience the solutions can be found in healthy masculine and feminine roles where both parties bring 100% of their own energy and skillset to the partnership and where the feminine happily follows the masculine, and the masculine happily serves the feminine with his leadership.
If the idea of hierarchy makes you baulk, just think, every relationship, business, organisation and animal ‘pack’ has some kind of hierarchy, even if the members take turns at being the leader. Even groups that suggest they are egalitarian have hidden leadership. Complete democracy creates confusion, conflict, and slows down progress. In the type of harmony I am talking about, the feminine has full choice and autonomy, she must choose to be lead, and she will only be lead by someone she trusts and who she knows will serve her best interests. It’s a dance. When you dance, both parties can’t lead. You need to pick a leader, or take turns. Imagine how ugly the dance looks if both parties were fighting to lead? That’s how many relationships look and why so many are choosing to leave the dance altogether.
Much of the ‘new’ thinking on masculine feminine dynamics has drawn the conclusion that the disharmony that is being created and promoted is part of the agenda to create confusion and chaos. As with all theories, we advise you put this through your own soul filter and feel into your body for the answer on this.
Spirituality ascension sometimes requires that you carefully examine the leading thoughts of the day and when things don’t resonate or aren’t working effectively, that you go against the grain and decide to pursue a different path, even when that is the path less walked and the one judged negatively by others.