To answer this question we must first establish what we mean by being emasculated. The term “emasculated” refers to the act of depriving someone of their masculine qualities or power. It refers to when a man feels weakened, disempowered, or less assertive.
The term ‘emasculate’ is derived from the Latin word ‘emasculare’, which means ‘to castrate’. Historically, it was used literally to describe the removal of male reproductive organs, but in modern usage, it mostly takes on a figurative meaning, describing the weakening of one’s sense of masculinity or power.
How does it happen?
It can happen in many ways, but the main three factors are; past trauma and mental health, societal influences, and relationship dynamics.
Let’s look at each of them in turn;
Trauma & Mental Health – struggling with mental health problems such as depression and anxiety can impact self-esteem and contribute to feelings of emasculation. If a masculine has had a difficult childhood or trauma in their past, this can diminish confidence, resulting in them turning to distractions and addictions such as alcohol, gaming, drugs, and excessive pornography. All addictions will weaken a masculine’s energy which he derives from being goal focused, providing, and leading.
A masculine can move back into his natural masculine energy by healing these traumas and overcoming addictions. Therapy is a useful and sometimes necessary tool, although many masculines have found drawing on the support of male support groups formal or informal to be invaluable.
If you feel you are suffering from severe mental health issues then you should always seek the help of a professional.
Societal Influences – many healthy divine masculine men are beginning to speak up about the way in which society and mainstream media are encouraging men to become less masculine and criticising some healthy masculine traits labeling them as being toxic. This messaging is creating confusion and disillusionment. Many men are giving up on the idea of leading and adopting traditional masculine characteristics and values as their confidence is becoming damaged and their purpose unclear. Instead they lose themselves in gaming, alcohol, drugs, and any other distractions they can find. Meanwhile on the other side of the fence women are being told they should work hard, climb the career ladder and be a ‘boss babe’, while also being an amazing mother… Basically the feminine should be everything to everyone and that there is no need for masculine input, any support is seen as weakness. Masculines are disillusioned, feminines are burnt out, and with little to no polarity, a lack of sexual connection leaves both frustrated and resentful.
Relationship Dynamics – if the feminine is being masculine in the relationship, this leaves no space for him. The feminine emasculates by; mothering, criticising, nagging, undermining, interrupting and correcting. This communicates a lack of trust and respect. She has often taken over the leader role and any efforts by the masculine to lead are squashed with the aforementioned behaviours. The feminine ‘thinks’ they want to lead, the reality is this leads to a lack of respect, resentment, burnout, and a relationship with no polarity or sexual spark.